Holy Matrimony

He was young, 2 beautiful kids, Successful…. He was in love, deeply in love…. She happened to be his wife. She was overly extravert, wanted to booze… to party…. She broke his heart… Piece by piece…. His emotions finally gave way. Leaving a note to his parents, love my wife as you always have, Take care of my kids, He took his life.

I was hearing this tragic story from my mother about the demise of a long time family friends only son and I couldn’t help but feel outraged at the wife. Fair enough, I’m not in a good position to pass judgment. But what scares me the most is that this was a decent guy… a really good guy who had a reasonably good life! One single bad decision on whom to marry drove this man insane and was the end of him. This brings me back to my old post ‘’the decisions you make shape the life you live’’. Being slightly paranoid myself on finding the right person to marry someday, it scares me a great deal. People often make a decision on whom to marry without knowing the full implications of a bad decision I think.

No wonder those Indian Parents get so involved!! I Remember reading a post sometime back about a blogger, who met a Kapuwa to fix her with a good guy, can’t blame the parents can you when in today’s world there are so many blunders in this area. Just as much as a good partner will help you excel in life, a bad partner can bring you down completely. I know of a guy who lost all his savings, millions. Coz it was in a joint account, lost his kids coz he had no source of income simply since he could not go back to work with so many domestic issues at hand and got kicked out of the house and the business which they started together (love really is blind). From riches to rags this guy went in a couple of months and for many years he was bordering insanity. Women go through the same, if not much worse…..

Marriage is a decision that needs to be taken after careful thought. I remember a blogger who once recommended a book which stated some important principles which need to be aligned to make sure no major clashes occur in a marriage. I suggest everyone to take a peek. Need to trace down this post….. Like the bible says, you really are in a mess if you happened to be unequally yoked!